My sister really likes the song, "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood.
After discovering that her boyfriend has been unfaithful, the Underwood character vandalizes his car. She smirks, pounding a "Louisville slugger" in the palm of her hand as the track plays "Maybe next time he think before he cheats." Underwood is clearly proud of herself for seeking revenge. A strong woman would have walked away from the situation. Instead, this woman is so insecure that she commits an act of violence she feels is justified because her boyfriend cheated on her. Are her actions empowering? Of course not. There is never an excuse for violence. It doesn't provide immunity against possible future acts of infidelity, nor does it help make the cheater aware of the pain his actions have caused.
Underwood sings "Before he Cheats", but what does that mean exactly? "Before he cheats on me again", "Before he cheats on another girl"? In the video, it seems that Carrie has ended the relationship, but if that is the case then what does it matter to her if he cheats again on someone else? I don't believe that she damaged his car to make him think twice about cheating on another girl (in case he dates another insecure bitch after Carrie). Maybe this is an act of sisterhood, with Carrie looking out for possible future victims of her boyfriend's infidelity. Or maybe Carrie isn't actually breaking up with her boyfriend, but is making sure that he is too afraid to cheat on her again.
In his blog, Glenn Sacks explains the double-standard in this song. If a man vandalized his unfaithful girlfriend's car, it would be considered abuse, but when a woman does it, it is considered empowerment. "Before he Cheats" is not the feminist rant it purports to be. Instead, it is an appeal to women to use violence to get back at their cheating boyfriends.